More insight to my own personality . . .
For those who don’t know me, I’m a direct person with a dry sense of humor. I’m also pretty sarcastic. Okay, very sarcastic.
It’s funny, because lately my friends have been making references to my directness. Not directly, ironically, but through interesting comparisons. One of my friends always calls me when “House” is on because I remind her of his character. I love that show, and granted, the man is a genius, but I’m positive that his genius is not the point of comparison, but rather, his aggressive, direct, sarcastic, unorthodox tendencies.
And then I thought of other comments made in passing — the “I can’t believe you said thats,” and the observations: “You don’t mince words, do you?” (Of course some people incorrectly say “You don’t MIX words,” but when I think of it, they might be right. I don’t mix words either).
The interesting thing is that I have no rebuttal, because they’re absolutely right. I’m all of those things. And I kind of like it. But I feel like I have to defend it.
I reached a point some years ago, where I decided that I wouldn’t hold back with anything that NEEDED to be said. Note the emphasized ‘NEEDED.’ I’m not unnecessarily direct, nor to I intend to hurt anyone’s feelings. In fact, I can be quite diplomatic when appropriate — and diplomacy is often appropriate. I prefer to think of myself as a clear communicator.
I’m not the kind of person that, if someone asks if I’m mad at them, I will say ‘no’ if I am, indeed, mad. In my mind, to lie is more offensive than to tell the truth. It’s not a white lie. It’s called “punking out.” If a person cares enough to notice and ask, I think we have a duty to step up, confirm their suspicion and tell they why. It gives them something to refute, and something to think about. It’s not going to change things, necessarily, but it will take away the mystery. But, wanting to clear up the mystery can be a double-edged sword. They shouldn’t ask if they don’t really want to know.
Once again, nobody asked, but I thought I should tell you anyway. More later. Gotta work.
